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charm-ish. wrote:

what do you think am i suppose to do? ignore my admiration from this guy or not? but how about my bf? eventhough i doubt his love for me, no one bothers to end it up.... and parents? what should i do? please help, guys. im so confused.

obey your parents .. they know what's the best for you .. screw relationships ..

charm-ish. wrote:

Hey, see I have a love problem.

Hmn, this is how it goes. I have this kind of relationship with someone. We're a thing but we don't seem to be one, or I just don't feel it. Sometimes i do, sometimes not. we haven't touched each other's hands, we didn't date, we didn't even talked as you know... Then he moved to another school. We temporarily lost communication and i think he changed a lot. then, we were able to talk again. he was texting me and y'know, just like before, sweet messages... but i feel nothing. slight. but it doesn't seem that "kilig" anymore. especially now. and he doesn't text me anymore and he kinds of chat with this girl (while i'm online) without even bothering to pm me. I feel bad about it. i don't think he still likes me. and then, there's this guy from our batch.. he's a new student, i feel something special for him. he's a past crush of mine and we are being teased at school because he sort of pecked me on the cheek when we're young. though i try to ignore it because he likes someone else. to add up... my parents are sort of saying.. "don't enter a relationship yet. you're so young at the moment. please." and i feel ... guilty for disobeying them.

what do you think am i suppose to do? ignore my admiration from this guy or not? but how about my bf? eventhough i doubt his love for me, no one bothers to end it up.... and parents? what should i do? please help, guys. im so confused.

Introductions first. Hi, Charm. I am Melisa. Pleased to meet you and glad to help out a little with your problem.

To start off the queries ... Hmm, I actually got confused with your problem regarding the two boys in your life. Is guy1 still important to you? You told us that you can't feel the usual 'kilig' that you felt before with him anymore but you're still bothered by his presence. I see, you still have a thing on him. I can really, really tell.

And about this guy2. He's somewhat a flirt. OMG. But I can also see that you are starting to like him, but hmm, not that much. Because you're still bothered by the presence of guy1. I advice you to know this guy2 more. I can't tell this soon that it's already love that you're feeling with guy2. Why? Because you like guy1 too. I think that what you're feeling is just plain infatuation. It's normal to have crushes, you know.

Don't feel guilty because you are not disobeying your parents. You are not entering a relationship yet. The best thing that you can do is to have an open communication with your parents or at least with your mother. Tell her about your crushes. I know that she'll be glad to hear out your kilig moments. In that way, you'll get closer to her and at the same time, have her advices. You'll be able to keep your promise too.

Hope that I've helped you out. Good luck with your problem!

white.liar007 wrote:

what do you think am i suppose to do? ignore my admiration from this guy or not? but how about my bf? eventhough i doubt his love for me, no one bothers to end it up.... and parents? what should i do? please help, guys. im so confused.

here's an advice.:

if you think he really loves you,go for it.there's nothing wrong.life is a matter of TNE.(IT concept:Trial'N Error)
for the first guy,ask him."what am I to you?" on his answer,feel it yourself.you will feel if the person loves you or not by your own.plus,I think,he's trying to forget about you.he's trying to ignore you like hell.so suppose maybe,he just treat you as a past time.move on without him.
For the words of your parents,don't worry about them. every parent tells those words to their children not because they are forsaking them freedom,because they are just protecting you.
they're also trying to know if you can follow them and also,if you are strong enough.maybe,they thought that you can be hurt.you are young to be hurt.thanks them for that.but remember,you can never be just like that forever,I mean,you can't always don't have relationships.everyone is free.it's just like this:

"can white.liar07 swim without anyone or does she need a float and just go say "I wish..." and stay like that and miss the fun?"


the answer's still yours.

just remember this phrase:

"walang gamot sa tanga kundi pagkukusa"
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Can anyone help me?
There's this boy. He loves me, and I love him, too. But the problem is, he has a girlfriend. I don't know if I should stay with this feeling for him. I don't wanna hurt his girlfriend, as much as possible. But he said he doesn't want to lose me, or he don't want me to leave him. We already know in ourselves that we love each other, but there is no commitment between us. Until now, I still have some doubt in him. Because he said he also love his girlfriend. He loves me so much, and so am I. I don't wanna lose him, either. But I am worrying for his girlfriend, and their relationship. I dont wanna be the reason for their break-up. I'm so confused about our status. What should I do now? Can anyone give me some advice? )

pinkchique0403 wrote:

Can anyone help me?
There's this boy. He loves me, and I love him, too. But the problem is, he has a girlfriend. I don't know if I should stay with this feeling for him. I don't wanna hurt his girlfriend, as much as possible.

- Okay. So this is the thing - DON'T DO UNTO OTHERS WHAT YOU DON'T WANT OTHERS TO DO UNTO YOU. If you were the guy's girl, what would you feel if your boyfriend is having an affair with another girl? Wouldn't you feel bad? My advice: As long as he has a girlfriend, keep your distance. Know your limits.

pinkchique0403 wrote:

But he said he doesn't want to lose me, or he don't want me to leave him. We already know in ourselves that we love each other, but there is no commitment between us. Until now, I still have some doubt in him. Because he said he also love his girlfriend.

- He must choose. You can't love two people at the same time. Maybe the other feeling isn't love, maybe it's just infatuation.

pinkchique0403 wrote:

But I am worrying for his girlfriend, and their relationship. I don't wanna be the reason for their break-up. I'm so confused about our status. What should I do now? Can anyone give me some advice?

- Sooner or later, his girlfriend will find out. My advice: He has two-timed his girl, he can easily do it to you if he becomes your boyfriend. Think.

@pinkchique0403
I hope this helps you. and can I ask? How old are you?

in . chick 28 wrote:

my ex and i broke up for a deep reason . because of my religion that is born-again christian
april 18 i realized that i should break up with him .. im so sad by that day but , i told my self "gillian yan dapat mung gwen!!" and it ended when i broke up with him using yahoo messenger while he's offline
he answered yes . and he'll wait for 7 years ..
now , our friends now that we broke up . but they are confused because my ex and i are still together acting like we're in a relationship ..
but the prob is .. i dont know how to forget him ..
i want to wait for 7 years to pass ..
i want him to be mine again ..

You know what, the biggest hardship you'll ever encounter in a relationship will be the contradiction in your religion. All you have to do is wait for 7 years, coz that's what you have both decided. To forget your feelings for him, avoid acting like you're in a relationship. Do some other things with your cliques. I suggest you don't spend much time often than before.

I know it will be very hard. Healing takes time. DO it slowly. Time will heal your broken feelings.

Last edited by azaliah (2009-10-17 17:16:08)

in . chick 28 wrote:

my ex and i broke up for a deep reason . because of my religion that is born-again christian
april 18 i realized that i should break up with him ..  im so sad by that day but , i told my self "gillian yan dapat mung gwen!!" and it ended when i broke up with him using yahoo messenger while he's offline
he answered yes . and he'll wait for 7 years ..
now , our friends now that we broke up . but they are confused because my ex and i are still together acting like we're in a relationship ..
but the prob is .. i dont know how to forget him ..
i want to wait for 7 years to pass ..
i want him to be mine again ..
can you help me ?!

Hi there.
I'm also a born-again Christian. In terms of ending a relationship because aof religion, then I think, if you know if it's for good, then that's the right thing to do. You already let him go, you broke up, so, you should step on the next path--- which is moving on. My teacher shared me a same story like yours.. so it reminds me of her problem and her solution to that. If you want to forget about him, then always pray to God and call for His help. You know the story of Gideon in the Bible? He asked for signs, which all came true. Then, to find someone, you should ask for signs too.. and if all of it came true, then God decided you to be with that person. As of now, you should always think and put in your mind that in everything, there is time, and if it takes long, then patience is needed. You could also focus on other things first like, worshipping to God or doing best at your studies. By that, little by little, you could forget about him, leave those memories behind, and start over.

I hope that helps.

broken_crystal.oo8 wrote [?]:

dear ftalkers,

i have a problem now. it's a small thing. but for me, it's a big deal. xD okay. lemme start. this is about my relationship with my family. i mean, with my mom. i'm already 15 (going 16) but i'm not used to sleep in my own room. yeah, i have my own room but i don't sleep there. i sleep in my mom's room. why? she wants me to sleep with her. i don't have my father. i mean, he's still alive but he's with her REAL family. i am an illegitimate child (for real). so, i grew up with my mom (she's 63 already). another thing, many people used to label me as a spoiled one. maybe they're right. uhm. these things are bothering me right now 'cause, i should be a grown up now, right? i always hope that i can sleep in my own room. oyea, i tried to sleep in there but my mom got angry and she thought that i am mad at her or i was keeping a secret but damn, i was not. i tried explaining it to her but she didn't bother to listen. she don't want me to have a boyfriend even suitors. thank God, she let me join this year's JS Prom. at first, she don't want me to attend. my classmates told me she's KJ. xD and that's right. haha. back to the boyfriend thingy, she didn't know i already had 3+ boyfriends. ) i'm getting rebellious now because of her 'rules'. i think she should lessen that because i'm getting older now. besides, she always blame on me. everyday! it's like, everything i do are/is wrong! it's like i never did something right. and when she's mad at me, she's transforming into a monter! (kidding :lol3) [kulang na lang palayasin ako!]. how can be mature enough if she's still acting like i'm still 12 or something.

what should i do now? should we continue acting like this? should i talk to her now and tell her what i am feeling now? i hope you can help me. thanks!

-Lein.

My advice is to talk to her again about it until she listened. Bcuz  fer me that is the only thing u can do to overcome problems about this. especially with parents. i have experienced that too.they dont listen at first but when u really meant wat ur sayin. they will listen. Tell her that she taught u how  to be independent and that lesson should be learnt today. tell her that u can take u r life on ur own and you need her full support. tell her that u can choose the right decision wisely and sicerely. Also discuss everything that u wanna talk her about. if u talk about her this in a serious way and listens to wat she said before replying to her. Try talking her in a calm way.
I hope that i could help u with ur problem

Mae

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